An alternative to the Mission Statement for Motherhood

Guest blog by Jen Hancock – Bullying

7 Ways to Help Your Kid Cope with Bullying

By Jennifer Hancock (http://thebullyvaccine.com/downloads/waystohelpkidscopewithbullying.pdf)

Author of The Bully Vaccine

No parent wants to see their child suffer at the hands of a bully. As much as we would like to shield them from horrible people, as parents, we have to be realistic. Our job is to prepare our kids for life in the real world and that means helping them learn how to cope with mean people.

Here are 7 ways you can help your child cope with bullying.

1. Have your kid’s back. If your child tells you that someone was mean to them. Don’t brush it off as a harmless childhood interaction. This is an opportunity to help your child learn vital coping skills. If you want your child to come to you for help, you need to give them help when they ask for it.

2. Don’t tell your child to ignore the mean kid or to handle it themselves. If they knew how to handle themselves, they wouldn’t have come to you for advice. Telling them to ignore a bully isn’t helpful. Give them real help so that they learn you really are someone worth confiding in.

3. Be Specific. You need to teach your child something specific they can do to get the bullying to stop. You also need to teach them why what you are teaching them will work and also how it works. Information is power. Share your knowledge, all your knowledge with your kid. They will tell you when too much is enough and when it is time for you to stop lecturing them.

4. Give them something constructive they can do. Don’t ask them to be passive. When it comes to bullying, your kid needs to know how exactly to respond to a bully to get the bullying to stop. They need to be told what to say and how to say it. And you need to help them practice their response with some role playing before you send them back to school. The key to getting bullies to stop is to not reinforce their bad behavior. In my book, The Bully Vaccine I outline the specific steps you need to teach your child to get the bullying to stop. These are:

a. A phrase to say to a bully every time a bully is mean to them. This phrase should be boring and off topic so that it won’t reinforce the bullying.

b. The critical importance of reporting each and every incident of bullying to a teacher

c. Encouragement to stand up and report the bullying that is happening to other kids.

5. Speak to the principal and the teacher(s) on your child’s behalf. Don’t just tell your kid to tell the teacher themselves. Teachers are not always aware of what is going on and some kids don’t feel comfortable speaking to adults. Additionally, children learn by example. So let your child know you are planning to speak to the principal and their teacher so that the teachers at the school can be effectively mobilized to help your child. Make sure to share the outcome of those meetings with your kid so that they know what is being done to help keep them safe. When your child sees you standing up for them and sees that the adults around them are willing to help them, it empowers them to continue speaking up and to continue reporting the bullying, which is essential if the bullying is going to be stopped.

This tip sheet is provided by Jennifer Hancock, author of The Bully Vaccine. To learn more about how to deal with bullying visit her website at:

http//thebullyvaccine.com

6. Encourage your child to feel compassion for the kids who are bullying them. This is very hard for a child to do, but it is essential that they learn the value of compassion. We all want our kids to grow up to be ethical, compassionate and responsible adults. However obnoxious a bully is, they are still a human being and they are still worthy of our compassion. Encouraging your child to be compassionate with everyone they meet, including the bullies of the world will not only help them cope better with the bullying. It will also help them learn how critical compassion is hen solving interpersonal conflicts successfully.

7. Encourage them to love themselves. Most bullying is emotional in nature. It is a taunt or a threat that is designed to make a kid feel bad about themselves. Your child needs to understand that they are just fine the way they are and that whatever they were told is wrong about them is actually one of their strengths and that not only is there nothing wrong with them. That aspect of who they are is something to celebrate. Again, be specific and share examples from your own life and the lives of others.

a. For example, my son has a high singing voice and is often told by boys in his class that he sings like a girl. This obviously bothered him. Fortunately, my son is a fan of opera.  So when he asked me about whether he sounded like a girl because of his high voice because some of the boys had teased him about it, I told him that all young boys have high voices, but more importantly, men with high voices are called tenors and they are some of the highest paid opera singers in the world! He immediately started bragging about how high he can sing by treating me to his rendition of the Queen of the Night aria from The Magic Flute. He hasn’t questioned whether his high voice is something to be ashamed of since.

There is nothing as heartbreaking to a parent as learning that your child is being bullied. Fortunately, there is something you can do to help them. You just need to be as courageous as you want your child to be.

About the author:

Jennifer Hancock is a writer, speaker and a Humanist who specializes in ethics, morality and what motivates us to be a better person. She offers trainings and workshops on Humanistic Parenting. To learn more, sign up for her mailing list.

If you are interested in learning how to talk about ethics and decision making with your child, check out her book:

The Humanist Approach to Happiness at: http://happiness

Birth Stories…

Leta
Hamilton is Seattle-based blogger of The Way of the Toddler: Spiritual Lessons
from Our Zen Masters in Diapers. She is a former radio show host, speaker and
workshop facilitator teaching inner peace strategies for moms. Currently on
maternity leave with her fourth son, she is the author of “The Way of the
Toddler” (published by HALO Publishing). Here she shares the birth stories for
her four children.

Birth Story 1:

Giving birth in a teaching hospital
is a strange experience. Not only are there nurses and doctors, but also a
parade of interns coming through your room every couple of hours to observe
“woman in labor.” My first child was born under these conditions. We were
living in London (my husband is British) and the nearest hospital was a short 5
minute walk away. Having our baby any place else was never a question. Life,
however, is a learning process and we learn through experience. Being in labor
for 18 hours with what felt like zero privacy definitely gave me strong
opinions about what constituted the optimal birth experience. This was not it.
Adding to my disillusionment was the constant pressure to be laboring “by the
book.” Are you dilating one centimeter every hour? No? Then it’s time for the
Pitocen. Now that we are injecting Pitocen through the IV, it’s time for you to
have an epidural because the pain will be too unbearable without it. Unable to
feel anything from the waist down and pushing randomly, the next thing I did
was poop all over the bed in front of about 15 hospital staff. Still not delivering
my baby, but with his head so nearly out of the birth canal I could feel it
when the nurse guided my hand to my vagina, the doctor decided to use the
Ventouse and make an incision in my vagina to create room for the baby to come
through. Finally, my baby was out and I was covered in blood and poop and
surrounded by more than a dozen people I had never met before. Never again, I
thought. Never again like this.

Birth Story 2:

Having a friend with a positive
home birth experience helps a lot to answer one’s questions about what it is
like to have a midwife in attendance instead of a medical doctor. Knowing that
I wanted a different birth experience the second time around and with such a
friend, my resolve became to do the same. We were still living in London and I
signed up with the home birth midwifery team my friend had used. The prenatal
experience was much the same as with my first baby – regular visits, blood
tests and ultrasound appointments. There were also evening group sessions where
you could ask questions and learn from both experienced midwives and parents
who had already been through a home birth. With the towels and other equipment
gathered for a home birth, I approached my due date with an open mind.  The hospital was only 5 minutes away if
something were to go wrong. About a week before my due date and unable to fall
asleep, I rested in the living room kneeling over a big purple yoga ball and
listening to a CD of soothing music in the dark. After nearly 3 hours of this
calm drifting in and out of sleep, I went into our bedroom to tell my husband
that I was in labor. Within a few minutes I went from preparing for birth to
having full on contractions. My body took over. I quickly stripped off my
clothes and jumped onto the bed on all fours. My husband frantically called the
midwife and then, when it was obvious that this baby was coming, called 911.
The dispatcher tried to talk him through delivery, but it was impossible to
have his ear to the phone and deliver the baby simultaneously. He ended up
dropping the phone and leaving the dispatcher hanging while he attended to me.
Now we had the midwife and an ambulance on the way. None of this really
registered with me. It was like I was on automatic pilot. During every
contraction I squeezed my husband’s hand and then rested between them. I asked
my husband to go collect the towels we had set aside. While he was out of the
room I had a contraction that sent fluid in a huge explosion all over the bed.
I remember feeling such gratitude that I was alone for that one. He returned to
the next contraction and to the baby’s head making its way out. It was at that
point that the doorbell rang. My husband ran like the wind to answer the door
for the midwife (with the paramedics right behind her) and then raced back to
the room in time to catch my baby as he launched out. My husband was then able
to immediately pass the baby to the midwife who then handed him to me after
making sure all was well (the paramedics sat in the kitchen and then left when
it was clear they weren’t required). This birth experience, while nerve
wracking for my husband, was the most empowering thing that has ever happened
to me. Without drugs, I was able to feel the baby travelling down my birth
canal, which is an indescribable feeling that has to be experienced to be
believed. My body, my instincts and my soul knew what to do. Even though we
delivered him in such an unconventional way, it remains to this day the best
birth experience of any of my 4 children. On his birth certificate it says,
“Delivered by unqualified person: husband.” This may be so, but who is more
qualified than a woman to know her own body? How could I ever go back to a
hospital birth when this one had made me know with such certainty that I was
truly capable of anything!

Birth Story 3:

When our second son was 6 months
old we moved to the United States to be nearer my family. Becoming pregnant a
third time was not exactly part of the plan, but we were unscientific with our
birth control methods. Before returning to the pill I decided it was wise to
take a pregnancy test “just in case.” Indeed, it was positive and number three
was on his way. With a quick Google search I found a midwife team near me that
performed home births. This time, however, I was going to take a hypno-birth
class and deliver in the kind of hypnotic trance I had seen on Regis and Kathy
Lee. For this one we would also have the birthing pool set up in the dining
room and I would deliver in the water. One person’s birth experience is not
like another’s and, even with all the self-hypnosis training, I was not feeling
“trance-like” during labor, nor was I feeling drawn to the pool. Every time I
sat in it everything seemed to slow down and all I wanted to do was get out. My
big epiphany with this birth was embracing the sentiment, “It’s MY birth and I
can do what I want to.” The first birth had been taken out of my hands by the
hospital staff, the second had in a weird way been taken over by unseen forces
that led me to act entirely out of instinct and not normal awareness, and I had
different plans for this birth. I envisioned an ideal scenario that included a
midwife delivering my baby with my husband and best friend acting as doula by
my side, in the water and in some kind of blissful hypnotic trance. None of it
turned out that way. Yes, we called the midwife in time and my husband was
there, but my best friend had further to travel and did not make it for the
delivery. The thundering “ah-ha” moment came on the couch when it dawned on me
that if I vocalized during the contraction it would feel really good. After
that, I did and he came within a few minutes. All of my calmness had been about
someone else’s birth experience and my belief that their way should be my way.
However, my way was my way and that was ok, it was perfect in fact. This was
incredibly liberating. Now I felt empowered to do anything and I had the confidence to create my own birthing ideas. Even with
two children on the boob (yes, I breastfed all through my second pregnancy and
continued to tandem feed for another year) and one more in preschool, I was ready
to live life to the fullest. Watch out, world, Leta is here!

Birth Story 4:

After our third child, my husband
had a vasectomy almost immediately. I was a newly published author establishing
myself as a business and starting to market myself as a speaker. It was time to
focus on my professional endeavors. It came as an incredible shock when two
years later I discovered I was pregnant a fourth time (fifth if you include the
miscarriage between sons #1 and #2). Apparently, around 1 in 2,000 vasectomies
can naturally reverse when the vans deferens comes together again with the
buildup of scar tissue. It only takes one sperm and one egg to make a baby and
somehow, despite our efforts, that is what happened to us. Already four and a
half months pregnant by the time I put all the clues together, the next stage
of this journey was to transcend my resentful feelings and arrive at some sort
of peace with this new development. Again, I turned to home birth and the same
midwife team that delivered my third baby. With their help, my husband’s
support and a lot of soul searching, I began to embrace the new life coming
into our lives. It was this baby that helped me own my previously repressed
non-enjoyment of pregnancy. Just because I champion natural child birth does
not mean I must love everything about the birthing process, which includes the
9 months of pregnancy in the run-up to birth. I finally allowed myself to admit
that being pregnant was not my favorite thing to be. This self-honesty led to
an expanded feeling of personal freedom that had its foundation in my last
pregnancy and birth. Then, when the time of active labor came, I was able to
continue in that vein of self-honesty, bringing this baby willingly into the
world, but also knowing with a certainty beyond certainty that this was not
something I could or would go through again. I had been brought full circle.
From a hospital birth, where all control belonged to hospital staff, to this
birth, where I surrendered my life to an ultimate power who clearly understood
something about my life’s purpose that I had yet discovered. Owning my part in
the overall web of our existence, I have learned more than I bargained for
through my four birth experiences. I have learned that: 1) You give away your
power to those you believe know better than you do; 2) no one knows better than
you when it comes to your body and your body’s capabilities; 3) you can choose
to experience any situation in a way that is concordant with your desires and
only you know what is right for you; and 4) when you are completely honest with
yourself it isn’t always pretty, but it does lead to better understanding of
how your character is prepared for what you have been dealt in life. I am
greater than I once thought myself to be. I have my four birth experiences and
my five pregnancies to thank for opening my eyes to an appreciation for all
that is powerful and strong about me. I’ve had my tubes tied now. I’m powerful
enough without any more birth experiences. Please. Please, no more. It would
send me to another dimension of parenting and I am not prepared to go there.
The lessons from that story are for someone else to write. Power from within.
This is the lesson I learned and hope to convey through these birth stories.

Where do you fall on the trust spectrum?

Link to my article on the Chat with Women website. Where do you fall on the trust spectrum?

http://www.chatwithwomen.com/content/607-Trust-Trust-Them-Trust-Myself-Trust-the-Universe-–-and-then-let-go…

Do you have a diaper….for life?

The DIAPER for Life is a 6-step philosophy for keeping calm in the midst of parenting chaos. It is an acronym to which a mom can obviously very easily relate. By taking “Down time,” a mom can recharge her battery. How does a mom structure down time into her schedule? What are the support structures around her to make this possible? We will discuss these and other questions around the down time from mothering that crucial to our mental and emotional health. I will discuss here the option of meditation and how it can be employed as another tool of down time. Then we will move to “Imagining our selves from our child’s perspective.” Here we move out of our own heads and seek to see things from the point of view of our children. How much more understandable is their behavior when we appreciate where they are coming from. What is the role of control and lack of control in our overall sense of wellbeing in our lives? Next, we will tackle, “Ask: What can I be learning from this?” How can this one question completely turn around any scenario – no matter how unpleasant in the moment? How can an attitude of lifelong learning help us break free from some of the more tedious and frustrating aspects of motherhood? We will brainstorm with eachother and share as a group what we are learning about ourselves through the act of parenting. From this point, we will move to “Pay attention to the bigger picture.” We will look at the entire context of our own lives from childhood to where we are now and then look at what we want for the whole lives of our children. How can having an eye on the ball of the BIG picture help us when the details are starting to weigh us down? This is the part of the discussion when we move from the content of parenting to the context of parenting. Then we will discuss what it means to “Evoke our inner adult.” By this I mean what do we have the capability and responsibility to channel from within even in those moments when all we want to do is have our own tantrum. When we are having a bad day, when we have had a fight with our husband or whoever, when we have had our last straw with something they are doing simply because they are a toddler and that is what toddlers do, what do we have to do instead of taking our emotions out on them? What does it mean to “evoke” the inner adult? Finally, we will finish with “Read your Mission Statement for Motherhood.” This is a written document that I suggest all moms write as a way of distilling the things that really matter to her in motherhood and in life. It is the thing that brings perspective back in an instant when everything feels overwhelming. We will discuss our core values as women and as mothers, what we would put in a Mission Statement for Motherhood and I will leave the group with those thoughts as they go about the rest of their day. Taken together, the D-I-A-P-E-R for Life Strategy is an acronym to place in the consciousness of a mother that will allow her to increase her options for how to handle the demanding situations of parenting. It will also help her celebrate and appreciate the joy of parenting/motherhood all the more. I hope I have answered your question.

Now that March is nearly over, it’s time to remind ourselves about those resolutions…

Every once in awhile you find a co-lightworker so in tune with your mission, you can’t help but promote them over and over again. “A Little Zen” fits that description. My book The Way of the Toddler celebrates our Zen masters in diapers, so you can see why I am so excited about Sanjay Nambiar and his books.

Sanjay Nambiar grew up in Carson, CA, where he overcame a gang- and drug-riddled environment with the help of a closely-knit family and a focus on education. He graduated with honors from U.C. Berkeley, with degrees in Economics and Neurobiology, and earned an M.B.A. from UCLA. In his professional career, Sanjay has travelled many roads, including investment banking and strategic marketing for Internet and media companies. He now is a freelance copywriter in Los Angeles, CA. Sanjay practices meditation on a daily basis and sees extraordinary potential for happiness (and frustration) in the confluence of Western lifestyles and Eastern philosophies. In 2011, he won a Mom’s Choice Awards medal for his children’s book, “Maybe (A Little Zen for Little Ones)”. Through his books, Sanjay hopes to inspire readers to consider life in a different perspective, one that incorporates a little bit of Zen as well as a lot of fun.

Keep That Resolution!

My writing from “Ernie,” my spiritual guide and co-writer. Enjoy, if you are ready.

A
Woman’s Many Faces

Introduction

Who
am I? I am Leta Hamilton in this lifetime. I am a sacred expression of God’s (All
That Is, the Universe, etc.) unconditional love for each human being living in
this physical dimension of form. I am a daughter, sister, wife mother. My
writing, my workshops and my radio show contribute to the world’s uplifting
frequency with their positive messages and life-affirming principles. I have a
mate who supports me while I ready myself for things to come. I have four
children who teach me every day through their childhood antics masking innate
spirituality. I am blessed with a house that contains all we need for our
future. There are people, places and things lining up to make my life purpose
come together. I will find my seeds have grown into great bushes of wonderful
and many colored flowers.

Who are we?

We
are all stars in the game of life, understanding the elements required to play
this game successfully. Our core is made of non-physical cords of light,
extending to all that we desire in the physical world. I am cords of light at
my core. As women, we are spiritual mothers. We ponder, sit and pray when a
question arises. Our role as spiritual mother is inclusive of all other roles.
I, Leta Hamilton, ponder, sit and pray in the company of angelic guides for intense
cord-conversations of light vibrating between dimensions. When I am able, I give
back to the physical dimension what the angelic guides have taught me. My
intention for sharing what the angelic guides are teaching me is to give
teaching about who we are at a soul level. As I share what I am learning, my
soul will feel it is living its purpose. There are attachments to fear still to
be released, but I am grateful for my angelic guides. Their willingness to
assist me in reaching into my energy and learning about the soul is never
ceasing. They continually move me in a direction where we can do this work
together.

We are the king of all our
surroundings.

As
kings, we command that which surrounds us. Everything is a servant to our
castle. We start as a piece by piece algorithm that begins the life-cycle. We
are an expression of All That Is on earth. I, Leta Hamilton, am a “handler.” I
take my hands and use them to answer questions. I use my hands to answer my
questions and I use them to answer other people’s questions. I also use them to
be in communication with spirit guides. I write down what they give me as
symbols in my field of consciousness and translate into words. They tell me if
I am interpreting the symbols correctly through my hands. Everything is tested.
Every word, sentence, paragraph and so on. With this, I hope to contribute to
the populace wanting specific answers to questions for the purposes relating to
their soul and divine mission. I am intending to attract populations of humans
who all have an interest in the soul and who believe in my method. Then, I will
truly feel as if I am helping. I must let go of my attachment to a group
consciousness that belittles thinking with non-conventional, non-physical
beings of light. I appreciate that there are people on this planet who have
gone before me and unattached their beliefs from group consciousness, who have
gone on to live fantastically fulfilled lives based on their own principles of
truth. Everything is infinitely possible. Anything we can dream can be. I am a
result of a dream. Everything is. As such, my dreams are infinitely possible. I
accept that the space-time continuum affects the ongoing state-of-consciousness
of humanity and is a part of the manifestation process. I allow my spirit
guides to work outside of space-time continuum on my behalf.

We are all powerful beginnings.

We
are the start to consciousness shifting opportunities for all expressions of
the universe. You are the center in weakened sense identities. The purpose of
your physical “I” is to understand with consciousness all forms of programs for
light operating in form. You inhabit a sense-identifying-aperture signifying
vibrations of hydro/oxygen densification. With sensitivity all around you, you
are a skilled and talented concentrate-collector for routes between theater
associated realms like earth and non-physical centers, realized as angels. With
the skills and talents I have, I can contribute to the teaching and guidance of
souls seeking understanding of Divine Missions, soul’s mechanics and relation
to experience on earth. Now that we are entering into a new era of
consciousness, my time has come to bring my skill to a wider audience. With
this step taken, I will feel a content of soul. There is still an attachment to
the illusion that outward experience affects negotiation between what can be
next for life and desires, but I appreciate what soul knowledge I have already
collected. It is a greater understanding about who we are as souls that will
bridge the rift between sensations and the infinite realm of possibilities,
what we call consciousness.

You are a soul.

You
process emotions through your soul. Emotions heal the settled energy in
consciousness. As consciousness begins to fill your soul, you trap
amplifications of energy in it and they become your frequencies. This mechanism
is all your soul uses for processing emotions and returning to hoops in the
angelic dimension where expanded consciousness is realized. We are all souls
sharing with other souls how to harness the new frequencies that will take us
through the next hoop to expanded consciousness. Those of us with enough
emotions processed through to full understanding, turn toward angelic realms to
expand further. We all have skills to teach other souls how to enter the next
hoop for them. You fill your life with people, places and things that can
assist your soul’s ascension and the ascension of other souls. As we go further
into 2012, we are ready for new insights about who we are as angelic beings. We
support the earth in figuring out its next hoop for realizing its angelic
real-nature. My soul is intending to attract as many other souls as it possibly
can to show all of them how to enter these hoops. I am writing this book to
attract souls and everything I do is intended by my soul to attract like-minded
souls. When this is achieved, my soul will feel it has everything it could
possibly desire in this lifetime. There is still an attraction to the lower
frequency of fear and unyielding posturing toward bodily identification, but my
angelic Higher Self is helping me move through hoop after hoop after hoop and
finally to complete union with the truth of who and what a soul really is – a
piece of God.  I know it is infinitely
possible for a soul to vibrate in the frequency of its Divine Angel. The Angel
that is you holds out her hand and greets your soul through hoop after hoop to
your true, divine, nature. If your soul accepts that there will be a time when
you exceed how you currently experience the world, this is all you need to allow
the angelic presence at your center to give you whatever you need in the
moment.

You are energy.

You
are a light being made of frequencies of vibrations, all orientated on an
individual point of light. The frequencies of vibration are in consciousness in
order to experience emotions. As energy, you experience for God. As an
experience of emotions, your frequency takes vibrations from consciousness and
translates them into more frequencies. These frequencies are registered
throughout the rippling sea of All That Is. In other words, you illuminate All
That Is on behalf of God. You use the tools of time to make a soul that will
process all the frequencies of emotion to give meaning beyond the surface and
turn it to unconditional loving for all beings. Your angel self has the
teleportation to manage space and time as if it were nothing. For, indeed, they
are nothing. There are no “intentions,” as such, only the instantly attracted
energy of a desire. In this moment, you can call forth the energy of bliss and serenity
and they will be yours. You already “feel” permission from All That Is to
experience the feeling that will expand your soul through the hoops of
consciousness and bring it closer to the truth of who and what YOU are.
Attachment to anything is but a clinging. Your soul clings to that which it
already knows when faced with a new possibility for a new emotion. An extreme
speed of vibrations is never “blaming” its frequencies on attachments. Your
soul simply attaches to vibrations that match its own. When your vibration
increases, so do the frequencies of the energies around you. You choose how you
vibrate. The things you consider attachments are with the soul until it is
ready for a new experience. That comes when the soul is awake to the
possibility for a new experience and asks for it. You always appreciate who and
what you are, as an energetic entity in consciousness. Your vibration in time
only knows itself as appreciation. You bring into form, or manifestation, All
That Is from the vast nothingness to the realm of space. This is what appreciation
symbolizes in your definition. So, everything is infinitely possible. You can
make anything manifest in a moment. Your only “job” as a human is to experience
the emotions of the soul for its growth to the hoops in consciousness until it
too is the same frequency as your angelic self. As an energy vibration, you are
frequencies.

You are cords of light.

Your
soul processes the emotions of the entity known as your name. It records the
expansiveness of emotions in the realm of consciousness. You are a data
processor, a registrar of frequencies, a growing mechanism and simulator for
the angelic energy that is the “person” at the center of the soul and the body.
Your soul expands into the great field of consciousness until physical form
drops away and takes the form of rightful, loving, unencumbered and pure light.
The soul is an inner bridge between physical and non physical, contributing to
both body and spirit. Your intentions as a soul are always to attract
frequencies from the sea of the non physical those vibrations that will aid you
in expanding to the hoops of consciousness toward your angelic vibratory
counterpart. When you reach this stage, you will feel ascended, wholly unified
with your angelic vibratory counterpart and in physical form as a messenger of
where we are all going. The soul of each of us appreciates its angelic
vibratory counterpart and the body, which houses its light cords. All is to be
appreciated from the soul’s point of view. Your soul knows that everything is
infinitely possible because it witnesses your angelic vibratory counterpart
creating energies that manifest as realities to the life of your name. This is
so that you will attract what you need for moving from one hoop of
consciousness to another. These energies are infinite in scope and truly all
that you can imagine is possible. Your soul accepts its duty to process the
emotions the spirit creates for your expansion to its vibratory rate of
rightful, loving, unencumbered and pure light. You, as a soul, will always
allow frequencies to come to you that will cooperate with your experience into
the next level of consciousness.

You are an open hearted human.

You
are here to issue open hearted knowledge about the soul. Your core self if
essentially heart space. You have three roles: to use your life as an appeal
for loving souls, to give earth a vibration for allowing her to move through
the next hoop and to best the experience of an open hearted human on earth.
With these roles, you are given five skills and talents. The first is to move
between human institutions and spiritual elements. The second is to be touched
by spiritual guides. The third is to find the answers to your questions. The
fourth is the ability to use words to bring spiritual essence to the hearts of
the other humans. The fifth is love to the human that lives on earth as a piece
of God. Your contributions are threefold. You will use your body as a teacher
of spiritual truths, you will use this life for unconditionally loving every
other human and you will be such a vibration that the earth can move into the
next hoop. The spiritual information coming into you now is the result of what
you already know. There is infinite possibility that you will become all that
you came here to be. Accept that you are a teacher and allow spirit to do its
work on your behalf.

You are a mother.

You
are on a quest for all that can be learned from motherhood. This includes what
can be learned from no children in this lifetime. Your impacting look at
mother-ness has an elevated effect on the well-lit hearts of children. Your
core self is the hearth. From here, all things illumine the world. Withhold the
hearth and there is only darkness. You can feel a great sense of pride that
this work is finding its way into the hearts and minds of so many around the
world. Appreciate the children, what they teach you and add to your quest to be
the best mother. Through this endeavor, Mother Earth, too, will be healed and
her children along with her. You are therefore an Ancient Mother. You have
lasting, eternal consideration for our Mother Earth and her children. Your
existence as spiritual mother brings a frequency that will raise the frequency
of Mother Earth. You are a human who puts herself before all others. You are a
power human, one that allows spirit to bring her the riches she deserves. You
will have offspring upon this earth, if not in body, then in spirit. You have
in your powers the capacity to be an unconditionally loving frequency toward
all life. Taking whatever earth years are necessary, you will heal Mother Earth
through spiritual mothering. Your calling is to unconditionally love Mother
Earth, to grow your own soul for the expansion of your frequency and, by
extension, that of Mother Earth. You have the talent to mother your children
with spiritual conditioning of the home, be unconditional with your love and to
make all children feel valued. In this way, you will make a path for all to be
spiritual mothers, even the men. Whatever your purpose in the individual
circumstances of your life, be inspired for action today. This angel that you
are is here for you to find.

You are a wife, a friend, a
daughter and a sister.

Whatever
you are, you are first and foremost a spiritual aspirant, looking to become
enlightened. Your roles are the day to day duties of your labels. These duties
provide all that is needed to become enlightened in your story. You have the
skills for accelerating your ascension. You can “be” the vast thing you are –
no matter what your life looks like from the outside. How do you need to be
reminded of your vastness? In whom do you see the vastness that you already
are? It is in that vastness of knowing of self that you will feel bliss and
serenity. The only attachment to let go of is the attachment to feeling less
than vast. You have a prayer that can release this immediately. It goes like
this: “Divine Self, I, of my own accord, can do nothing about my feelings of
smallness. The only thing I can do is surrender my feelings of smallness to my
Divine Self now and forever more. With head bowed and humble heart, I surrender
my feelings of smallness NOW and FOREVER MORE. In the name of vastness, it is
done, it is done, it is done. Amen.” Of course, there is always the possibility
that none of this is real and I am completely mistaken. If that is, still,
nothing can take away from your vastness. You are infinite. Having your
vastness as an aspect of your conscious reality makes the possibility of
attracting others into your life also conscious of their vastness infinitely
possible. Accept your vastness. Allow the “hands” of the angels to bring you
your fellow kindred spirits.

You are love.

You
have an inward looking attitude that works on what does not feel good and turns
it around to make it feel better. With your love, you can be a model for what
it means to expand as a human being. The skills to keep people in a light
hearted mood, even those that vibrate at lower rates, are talents few possess.
You can give the children of this world an example of unconditionally loving of
self. Also, you can show them how to work on one’s inner self. Attracting a
life that is filled with laughter, love and joyful experiences in the world is
what will follow for all. Whatever you “think” family should look like, let it
go and give your definition a new vastness to match yours. Every one of you is
here to teach and learn from each other. Every one of you is an angel. Everyone
is family.

You are Mother Earth.

You
are the spiritual representation of Mother Earth as a sentient being in the
system known as Universe. You are made of the stuff of earth. You are carbon
based and oxygen dependent. You are full of vibrating cells. You and the earth
are one. Be solid, like a foundation, and be a patient listener for the needs
of the millions of cells within your body. You are strong and capable of being
maligned by the cells of your body with no consequences for a long time.
Eventually, you will break down. When that occurs, you have the talent to
regenerate with a whole new set of cells. The cells in Mother Earth are
regenerating. Soon her body will be made of all new cells. You can give your
social circle, your family and all those around you a stable environment in
which cells can live out their lives and regenerate. Plus, you can be a
teaching tool for all children in order that they can know the Highest and Best
way to treat the home. Give them a core from which they can grow in awareness
toward intuitive unconditional Oneness with All That Is. We are intending to
attract other cells, living in this time-space dimension, at a point in their
growth, which supports a change in the frequency of the host, Mother Earth. You
are ready to attract the cells. You are stable and the cells will be attracted
to you. Your vibration provides the space-time point from which their cells can
change vibration to something else that is closer to intuitive unconditional
Oneness with All That Is.

You are a spark of light.

The
love of God breathes you into existence. You expand. You are an expanding light
signature. Your soul registers the emotions experienced by human-being, beginning
with the densest vibrations all the way up to the lightest frequencies of
unconditional love and joy. There is a spiritual filing system from which all
lifetimes can draw upon and condition life experiences to add new “files” or
close off others with total understanding. Emotions are processed through cords
of light, and involve being able to repeat emotions until they are understood.
Your soul organizes emotions for the angelic energy that is in charge, which
she uses thousands and thousands times over for perfecting her understanding of
the experiences happening on the earth for every possible emotion. From this
understanding, she boasts the awesome wagon train of light that comes with
knowing every emotion. You attract new emotions that will add to the perfection
of your angelic energy’s understanding of all emotion. You close up files as
you understand emotions and add new ones. Whether or not you are ready to
experience an emotion is an irrelevancy for the soul. It will process what the
angel “boss” that you are brings it. As a soul, you are not attached to
anything. The angel energy that you are is all-attached to perfecting the
understanding of whatever emotion is adding to her wagon train of light. As
emotions are increasingly understood, the angelic energy that you are closes
that file and opens new ones. All emotions are experienced by human beings in
an infinite number of life experiences. All things are possible, given the
infinite nature of God and All That Is. As a human, your only “job” is to
refrain from resisting the emotions your angel self clearly wants for the
perfecting of her understanding and making of her wagon train of light that
adorns her in the Heavens. Accept the emotions given to you by your angelic
“boss” for processing and filing. Allow these emotions to come in and the soul
will register them. Resist no-thing.

You are a bringer of unconditional
love.

You
are on this planet to bring unconditional love to the earth and to the children
of the world. Your skills are to show the souls of this planet what
unconditional love looks like and also to show Mother Earth that a soul can
love her unconditionally. You are putting more unconditional love onto the
planet and into the hearts of all men. You are anchoring the vibration of
unconditional love into the souls of many. Infinite possibility shows itself
entering this realm with the birth of every new baby. It is given to each
person on this planet as a gift. The experiences we choose for the expansion of
our souls will bring many more unconditionally loving beings to this earth.
Your inspired action is to be totally and completely in the movement of life,
judging each thing only as an expression of God and nothing else. Claim your
birthright and know you have the infinite possibility to become that which is
your destiny. So be it and so it is. God loves you.

You are an angelic energy that
experiences all emotions through the soul.

Your
soul processes all emotions through the body, but your actual “self” is pure
energy. It has a frequency too high to allow for form. Hence there are added
dimensions of soul and body. The angelic energy that you are directs itself to
dimensions that will open new doorways into greater knowledge. You are skilled
at directing your energy in consciousness. You contribute energetic direction
to the soul and to the body, including the energy to bring infants into the
earth dimension and the energy to move from the earth dimension back to the non
physical dimension. You do not actually “feel.” You have a frequency of energy
that is to experience emotions through the physical dimension of form. Every
human is an earth angel. You favor emotions that vibrate with the outward
experiences of that which you need for expanding your soul.

You are energy extending above the
body and below the feet.

You
are energy of self-awareness extending above the body and below the feet,
stretching out the wholeness of who you are. This energy vibrates and makes
varying sounds that can be heard by the similar sounds of other energy. You
have an energetic sound. It sings a song that expands out to join other songs
in a chorus. Together, we sing the world. You intend to attract other songs
that sound with the vibration that will expand your soul now. These vibrations
are all around you. As you attract them, you become glorious. You feel glorious
when you attract the vibration that expands you. You have many vibrations in
your song. They are your personal energy. Some are not so melodious. However,
they make up a piece of your personal song. It is important that you keep all
your pieces, as your song is not your song without them. Appreciate all your
vibrations because you are infinitely expansive with their sounds. Together, we
have the possibility to bring Mother Earth up to the vibration of joy. This is
a worthy symphony. It opens up the possibility for Mother Earth to sing in her
chorus of the universe. By accepting yourself, you allow your energy to sing in
the chorus of all life. Put new sounds into your energy. Let there be sounds of
joy and serenity in your life. This can be done with only the stated intention
and a prayer. Leave the rest to your angelic creator and go about your day.

You are breath.

You
breathe life into what stands still. Your breath is your song to the world.
With your breath you can be here now for all of life, that life may know a home
and grow. In a well tended garden, the life there will experience abundance.
There is soil that the life may sink its roots into richness and pollination
from those who will take this fruit of Mother Earth and plant its seed in other
gardens. Whatever will take your breath as its reason for growing is your
responsibility for tending. As women, for many of us it is our children. It
does not have to be. Whatever we tend with our breath will one day grow to such
expanse that we will have to say goodbye. It will be our time to tend a new
garden. Children are but one garden. Mates are another. It is a disservice to
our breath to tend too many gardens at once. However, we are ready to tend
many. If not now, then when we are finished with another it will be time. The
next step is to tell the flowers in your garden that words do not come from
you. They come from breath. Breath is not human. It is of God. Accept that your
breath will be reaching many ears and allow what is not of God to move out of
the way so that breath can bring this garden to more life.

You are womb.

You
are born with a womb. You live that you may know kindhearts. Kindhearts are the
connections between women given to them by the womb. It is by and through the
womb that we love. We have physical skills to bring little ones onto this earth
and to feed them with milk until they are strong. We do this well, very well.
With the womb, we can bring new babies that understand the new consciousness of
the planet and want a mom that understands. We will become one kindheart. When
we feel connected to a degree we have never known before, a feeling of one-ness
and group consciousness will fill our souls. We must be willing to embrace our
completeness and know that we are loved by God just as we are. Even if we never
find another kindheart with which to share our consciousness, what we are is
perfect. There is no reason for attachment to finding kindhearts because you
are already finding them and they are already finding you. Each kindheart
imbues the group consciousness with a different vibration that creates its own
wagon train of light. Like a galaxy, you are a group of stars coming together
to form a light show. In body you may be either male or female, but these are
choices made for an individual soul’s next vibration as emotion in a unique set
of life experiences. The gender does nothing to take away from the kindheart’s
entry into the group consciousness. It is an infinitely peopled group with
every human permutation possible. Look at each person as a potential kindheart
with whom you can join in group consciousness. These kindhearts are every race,
every gender, every sexual orientation and every outward personality. As you
find them, they will find you.

You are a person.

You
are unique. You have correlating roles to go with each title of “mother,”
“wife,” “sister,” “daughter,” and so on. As these things, you fulfill various
expectations about what those things mean. This playing out of roles keeps you
busy. Your busy-ness is well worth the return in love and support you receive
from your relationships on the other side of these roles. Your contribution is
to make the world a better place because your roles are contributing to the
very core of human existence and making that experience more positive for
everybody. If you want to exit one of your roles to free up more energy to
devote to others, it is simply a matter of intending that to be so. If it does
not happen overnight, it is because your soul must process more of the emotion
that role provides. Your soul will process emotions as directed by the angelic
energy that is you and without body. You are not ready if the role of that
which is robbing you of energy brings you “juice” in the form of strong
emotions one way or another. In other words, as long as you are receiving
feedback, you are not ready. Also, the person on the other side of your
role-relationship may not be ready to leave the energy pattern. All you can do
then is continue to love, holding all your role-relationships in their highest
light for them to be supported. This will do the most “good” in terms of
preparing them for an exit from the role-relationship. You will feel as if
something has opened up energetically when you are freed from a role. There
will be more time to be in flow. The beginning of any exit is to free
consciousness from attachments to expectations. Appreciate the people on the
other side of your role-relationships. They have brought your soul many
emotions to process and have made you ready for the purpose of your life, and
its fulfillment. It is possible that you can be in role-relationships without
expectations. It is not the will of the angelic energy to be attached to
anything, especially expectations. It is much more natural and an efficient use
of energy to hold role-relationships up to their highest light and release any
expectations to God for transmutation.

You are master and keeper of your
domain.

You
are mastery. Your skill is to live here on earth, while being a human and a non
physical energy. You can be both physical and non physical at the same time,
communicating in thoughts with all parts of the cosmos. This is a dream for
your learning and interpretation. None of it is “real.” All of it is for the
exercising of your mastery and keeping safe your domain as angelic energy with
a light signature. You will feel your mastery as you grow on your spiritual
path. It is fun. At least your angel self thinks so. Appreciate all that you
have. This life is perfect for you and your mastery. Accept that your turn has
come for being the master that you already always were. Allow the ride to do
its thing. It all is as it makes for mastery. The domain that experiences all
your emotions is perfect.

You are the life force.

You
radiate energy. This radiant energy powers the life force that is your angel.
You are its soul, as you are your body’s soul. You are the life force. And the
life force is you. You are energy. The light passes through cords and travels
through the different parts of the body. Emotions vibrate at different
frequencies, travelling through the body at different rates of speed. When too
dense a vibration comes through, it may stay in the tissue of an organ for a
long time until something or someone comes in there and breaks it up. Healing
is this process. It can be done energetically or through whatever methods are scientifically
understood. This is not for this discussion. The soul takes emotions and places
them in different parts of the body. It sends them according to the
instructions of the angel “boss” that you are so that a persona emerges on the
physical dimension and humans have a sense of who they are when they do not yet
realize they are an angel. The soul’s contribution, thus, is to make you, you.
Without a soul, you would have no central location for registering and
processing emotions and so could not experience life on this planet. Your angel
“boss” wants to send emotions to all parts of its body, the thing you know as
you. The wagon train of light becomes spectacular indeed through this interplay
of emotions and experiences, emotions and experiences, over many lifetimes.
When you are ready, the angel “boss” lifts the frequencies of emotions to
higher and higher levels. It sends you emotions and you process them as you
feel them. This is the Law of Three. 1. As an event occurs in the life of a
human, the human will register a certain number of emotions to go with that
event. 2. Those emotions are picked by angel “boss” so that the experience can
be energetically added to the wagon train of light. The wagon train of light is
the purpose of all the soul feels, what it is registering and processing. The
wagon train of light is the purpose of all experience. 3. The soul feels what
it is registering and processing. This makes it perfect for its job. It
experiences the experiences and thus makes a complete circuit. We become like a
horse wagon. The angel that we are is the horse. You, a human, are a saddle on
said horse. The wagon is everything we have been through in all lifetimes. The
expanse around us is the terrain of consciousness, creating exactly what we
need. The driver, of course, is God. The problem with this set up is that even
the saddle has consciousness. It is not really a problem, not as we define it.
The consciousness of our humanness is just one aspect of the whole. The thing
the saddle does not know to begin with and learns over time is that it’s on a
horse, with a wagon behind it, a terrain around it and a maker of All That Is
on top of it. You can appreciate your angel “boss” self. It provides the reason
for your existence. You are the angel “boss.” Your soul, your body, these are
your servants. Your life as you call it is infinitely surrounded by every
possibility there is available to the experience of any human being. Those
experiences brought into your physical dimension are chosen by you so that you
may be more, so that your wagon train of light can be expanded, so that the
Heavens can glorify and honor itself. All this is true. Whatever you need for
growing your spirit will appear. You will be given the capacity to hold more
and more. Angel “boss” stretches out her energy until it is wholly in the non
physical dimension, where there will be great celebrations and honoring of this
earth journey.

You are all that is written about
in this book.

There
is the energy of an atom, of a star and of an unseen life force that permeates
All That Is – an energy that exists everywhere. You have many roles and one
role. That one role is to exist on this earth as you. That is all. That is more
than millions of angels in the heavens will ever have in their wagon train of
light. It is everything. Yearn to be the best you, for that lens is the one
through which you will find all joy and serenity. Your contribution is and will
be to be a human that raises the vibration of this planet for the next stage of
human evolution. If that is too woo-woo for some, I accept their pragmatic
approach to living as an option and give myself the option to live a different
sort of life. Here I end. What I hope to show before I go is that the soul
expands further and further to its witness of frequencies so high they are no
longer possible in form. I also want to attract many kindhearts and give us a
chance to meet many of them in person. When we come together, it will feel
awesome. The whole miraculous process is more wonderful than any of us can
imagine with “saddle” consciousness. Nothing is more miraculous than the life
each of us is living now. Be humbled with the awesome miracle of life. If there
are people who cannot see the awesomeness and the miracle, accept that as their
option and allow something different for your option – one that sees and knows
miracles. I appreciate each reader of this book. To those eyes who have taken
the time to sift through this material and make it their own, what I am, you
are and vice versa. It belongs to you, this book. It also belongs to God, who is
beyond all comprehension, but intimately connected to us all and the connecting
force that makes us all one. To God, then, I dedicate this book and also to the
Divine Readers, kindhearts one and all.

What makes a parent “distinct?”

Recently approached by CBS’ Al Cole, host of a series called “People of Distinction,” has prompted me to contemplate the question, “What makes a parent a person of distinction?” Is it the number of children they have? How they tackle issues like discipline and excellence in all areas, including behavior? Is it their approach to education? Is it how they teach new skills? What is it that makes a parent “distinct?” My own feeling is that it is none of those questions above. Rather, it is a mark of patient trustfulness that says to all the world, “I know my child will succeed in the world, no question. Whatever ‘success’ may look like for her, it will be the perfect definition of success.”

We have strict ideas about what success means in our society, but I would like to change all that. What I would like to do is redefine success to mean, “The amount of joy my child experiences as a total picture of their whole life, not just their job, family, friendships or any other aspect, but the whole picture combined.” That may be wordy, but it is not hard to see what I mean. I do not want them to measure their success by how much money they earn in relation to others. I want that success to bring them freedom to experience life at a level that fills them with joy at the marvelous thing this living life is…

Life is a marvelous thing. If you don’t think so, then I would suggest you redefine what success means to you and then start living by that new definition. It is not something to dread. It is not something to feel negative about sometimes and positive about others. In my definition of living, it is all a pleasure – even the poopy diapers and piles of laundry. Why? Because everything offers an opportunity to learn, grow and transcend previously held limiting beliefs. Everything is an opportunity for the expansion of my soul and the deepening of my experience. Nothing is wasted. I am blessed to be alive, blessed to have these clothes to wash, blessed to exist in the midst of so much abundance.

So, it is with head bowed and humble heart, that I say a parent of dinstinction is one that teaches the blessings of every moment. She is one that wipes away the tears while expressing gratitude for them, for they are a window to deeper understanding of life’s many hills and valleys. Our emotions free us to fully experience all of life and they are all to be blessed and honored. In the loving-ness of parenting, we can teach our children to know they are successful at living because they feel all of our possible emotions as human beings. In this knowing, they are armed with the greatest tool a person could ever have – the tool of acceptance. In non-resistance to what we are feeling is a key to the great “secret” of self-esteem. It is by accepting what we are feeling NOW as valid, worthy of feeling and a part of our makeup that we know our right to be here on this earth. As we are here, I think it is an inalienable right to believe that we have the worthiness to fill this particular space of planet.

Illuminating for my children that they already are successful at being human and all the rest is frosting on the cake, so to speak, is my number one priority. I don’t claim that, that makes me a parent of “distinction.” But, I do claim it makes me a parent of a different ivory tower than many. My ivory tower is based on the notion that every feeling is something to celebrate. Every time I feel the anger, frustration or impatience swell up inside me, I know it is something to be thankful about and, because of that, I can accept it, deal with it, move on and love my children all the more for putting me right where I am right now. It is their antics that are my greatest teachers. Their souls will thank me for this definition of “success.”

Guest post by Dr. Nathan Daley

Being with Nature: a nature meditation

Posted on June 24, 2011by Nathan Daley, MD, MPH (http://ecoholos.com/2011/06/24/being-with-nature-a-nature-meditation/)

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