1. Admit that this isn’t the way you planned things to go. Spend some time processing your feelings through journaling, confiding in a trusted friend, praying and walking in nature.

2. Let go of expecting anything of yourself for a certain amount of time – you decide.

3.  Spend some time every day (even 3 minutes will do) in silence to return to a place of peace. This is spirit’s opportunity to comfort you.

4. Say the “I’m Sorry/Ho’oponopono” prayer often. A simple “I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.” is all it takes to clear away negative thought patterns. You don’t have to know why you are saying the prayer or have a particular image in mind at which to direct the prayer. Just saying the prayer is incredible therapy. (see http://www.self-i-dentity-through-hooponopono.com) for more details and information about this ancient Hawaiin technique)

5. Learn to laugh again – at yourself, at the situation, at the fickleness of life. Do something that you know will put you in a light hearted spirit.

6. Be open about what is going on. There is no sense in pretending that things are great when they are not and no benefit in hiding the facts from those to whom you talk. It’s all about authenticity. Use this opportunity to be authentic about how you are feeling.

7. Program “unexpected” as par for the course in your mind’s eye. When we expect the unexpected, we can deal with it better. Life is about learning and it will always toss new material our way for us to study and from which to learn. Yippee!!!!